“My kids appearance is a reflection of me.” Ouch. These words stung as I tried to explain to someone about the unkempt appearance of my daughters’ hair that day. Apparently, I was the loser in the game of “my kids reflect me” this time around. I didn’t have a retort or something sassy to say. I chalked that one up to mommy failure. It wasn’t that I never did their hair. I just didn’t get around to it that day. That actually happened to me a lot. There were more than a few people in my life who had commented about the state of my children’s hair on more than a few occasions. It’s enough to make you think twice about your parenting for sure.
That night, I lay awake. Thinking about the the kind of brute that would let their beautiful children walk around with messy hair. I was that brute. After I beat myself up for a few hours, some other thoughts came to me.
- I am a mom that home schools my kids. I have given up hundreds of thousands of dollars in potential income the past 10 years to spend my every waking moment to educate, nurture and love my girls. +15,000,000 points
- In less than a year we’ve been on “road school” trips to California, Memphis and the Dominican Republic. My younguns are learning how to pick stocks and dominate the world at the moment. +89,000,000 points
- I have groomed both my children in piano, guitar and voice training. My oldest child has an active career in acting and voiceover with the youngest following suit. +20,000,000 points
- I worked my BIG OLE BUTT off to help our family get out of over $100,000 in debt. We did it and are now debt free. +230,000,000 points
- Because we are debt free, money stress is minimal. My husband and I have a GREAT relationship filled with joy and affection helping our children believe in the power of love, marriage and teamwork. +999,000,000 points
In my mind, I ding myself for -5 points for unkempt hair, mis-match socks or any other fashion faux-pas. I am a mom, not super woman. In fact, I am mom-woman which has a bajillion times more super powers than superwomen. I give myself a pass. Yes, I can do that and I will.
Update: my 10 year old now does her own hair and she looks fab pretty much everyday. Oh…. and she has a resume, can do math really, edit videos, execute flawless graphic design well and picks stocks. I’d say “nice hair” is the least of her awesome qualities.
So yeah, I don’t do much hair, but I give my 100% on everything else.